Everyone said time would fly by, but I can’t believe our sweet Patriot is now one month old! Between our hospital stay, appointments, visitors, and adventures around Hong Kong, I often find myself wishing I had another 4 hours or so in the day.
And I don’t mean an extra 4 hours of sleep. In fact, I quickly found myself going from- desperately wishing I could get more sleep at night- to -desperately pleading with myself to go to sleep instead of staring at him peacefully snoozing.
To say I’m obsessed and in love is an understatement.
Today Patriot is officially one month old.
How did he go from this…
…to this, so quickly?
Patriot Peter Lampard
One Month Old
Still wears his newborn clothing
Still wears newborn diapers (both cloth and disposables)
- Turning Mama’s boobs into a natural baby pillow
- Skin to skin
- Sitting upright (with some head support)
- Having his hair combed
- Walking around in the Boba wrap or Ergo Baby
- The motion of the stroller rocking down the street
- Looking at lights
- Warm showers with Daddy
- Warm rooms in general
- Gripe water
Mama’s Favorite Things
- Morning cuddles on the couch after breakfast
- Skin to skin
- The fact that he smells like milk all the time
- When milk dribbles out of his mouth aka what we call, “milk mouth”
- Seeing him become more alert
- Watching him actually interact with his toys
- Poorly singing his “Wakey Time” playlist and turning every song into a song about baby Patriot
- When he falls asleep and his limbs go limp
- Checking Patriot back into the hospital for jaundice after less than a week at home with us
- 2 very sleepy, teary nights (for me) when baby didn’t want to sleep so Daddy took over
Patriot is exclusively breastfed, directly from me. I just started pumping a couple of days ago but he has not had a bottle yet. While he was in the hospital for jaundice I breastfed him when possible and we allowed the nurses to cup feed him both milk that I had pumped and formula as needed.
He has been demand fed, meaning whenever he wants milk, we let him have it. He feeds 10-15 times a day, depending on the day.
The first week and a half of breastfeeding was a painful learning curve for me. I was really sore and worried that I wouldn’t be able to make it work. My midwife recommended silverettes which were a lifesaver. With everything healed up, Patriot and I were finally able to get a good, pain-free latch and now I love the special bond he and I have while breastfeeding.
After Patriot came home from the hospital, Peter and I initially struggled to get him to sleep at night. We tried getting him to sleep in his Moba basket and in his DockATot with no success for the first couple of nights. The only way we could get him to sleep was when he was being held or on his belly, on my chest.
If you scan the internet, you’ll find a handful of posts saying this is a completely natural way for a baby to sleep. You’ll also find hundreds of posts about how this is a huge no-no and that your baby will die if you do this…but what you’ll find even more of is, posts from tired, new moms saying they also had to let their baby sleep on their chests for the first few nights. Your baby has gone from sleeping nicely cradled in a warm, cozy womb, to trying to sleep on his back on a firm mattress. It’s not an easy transition for parents or baby.
Luckily after a couple of nights we managed to help him fall asleep on his back in his DockATot and he’s been sleeping in it between Peter and I ever since.
At one month old, he usually wakes up every 2-3 hours and feeds for ~10-15 minutes at a time in between. Sometimes he wakes up at night and wants to spend an hour or so playing, but usually he goes right back to sleep after a feeding session. At night, Peter is on diaper duty and I continue to serve as Patriot’s human milk machine.
The longest stretch he ever slept was 4.5 hours at around week 3. I was terrified that something was wrong when I looked at the clock and saw so much time had passed. This has only happened twice and luckily he has been fine both times!
Happy one month, Patriot! I wish you would stop growing so quickly but I can’t wait to celebrate the many more months (and years) to come!